93 questions in 8 categories
Two options, both tempting or both terrible, and you have to pick one. Would you rather is the easiest way to get your partner talking, because nobody can resist explaining their answer.
Play the game below on one phone: you pick, pass it over, your partner picks, and you both see how many you matched. Every question is also listed underneath if you'd rather read them out loud on a long drive.
Pick a category and tap the option you would rather do. Player one goes through every question in it, then hands the phone over without showing their picks.
Player one ยท 1 of 12
Would you rather...?
Start here. Silly enough to get you both laughing, and just specific enough to start a real argument about elevators.
Sweet ones for a night in. The answers show how your partner likes to be loved, which is worth knowing.
Every answer here is basically a date idea. Screenshot the ones you both picked and actually go on them.
Good for planning your next trip, or for finding out you should never take one together.
Low stakes, high drama. Nobody has ever changed their mind about leftovers, but it's fun to try.
Chores, sleep and the thermostat. The small stuff that matters most once you share a place.
Neither option is easy. Save these for when you have time to talk about why you picked what you picked.
Lighter ways into big questions about where you'll live, how you'll work and what growing old together looks like.
Pick your questions, answer them yourself, and send the link. Your partner tries to guess what you'd choose, and the site scores every answer. It works on the same couch or from different time zones.
Use any from this page or write your own. The ones about your real life together work best.
Your picks are the answer key. Set how many they can miss and what's at stake.
They guess on their own phone. You both see the score and every miss.
Ready-made quizzes you can start right now. Answer about yourself, then send to your partner.
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Splitting on a funny question means nothing. Plenty of happy couples disagree about elevators and beige food. The reasons are where it gets interesting: when your partner explains why they'd rather share a toothbrush than a phone, you learn what they actually care about.
The living together and hard choices categories are the ones worth slowing down for. If one of you picks โone huge fight a yearโ and the other picks โbicker a little every dayโ, that says a lot about how you each handle conflict, and it's a much easier talk to have over a game than after an argument.
If you want quicker picks, try these this or that questions for couples. For longer conversations, there are questions for couples for every stage, and if you're playing with a group, the newlywed game questions are made for an audience.
Both options have to be about equally good or equally bad, otherwise there's nothing to decide. Specific beats vague: 'share one car for a year or share one bathroom for a year' starts a better argument than 'money or love'. The best ones are about the life you actually share.
Read a question out, count to three, and say your answers at the same time so nobody copies. Then each of you explains your pick. The game on this page works on one phone: player one picks, passes it over, player two picks, and you both see how many you matched.
Send one question at a time and wait for their pick before you reveal yours. Or make a quiz on Couples Quizzes: you answer first, send the link, and the site scores how many of your picks they guess right.
This or that is a quick preference, like coffee or tea. Would you rather is a whole situation, usually with a catch, like sharing one phone for a month or one toothbrush for a week. Would you rather questions take longer to answer and lead to more talking. If you want the quick kind, there's a separate list of this or that questions for couples.
Start funny and finish deep. The funny and food questions warm you up, and by the time you get to the hard choices and the future you're both in the mood to explain yourselves. If one question turns into a long conversation, let it.
Ten or so makes a good round, which is about one category in the game here (each has 11 or 12). The talking after each answer is the point, so there's no need to rush through all of them in one night.
Build a would you rather quiz about yourself and send it over.
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